Let’s get real – parenting is tough. Instagram/Facebook shows a lot of perfect family pictures but it’s not always roses. It’s often more like a big pile of poop.
There are some moments when I just sit on the couch/in the car and cry.
And you know what? I am not alone. I don’t know if I know of any mom that hasn’t broken down out of frustration, fatigue, or just this feeling that this is my life and I have to deal with it right now but I really don’t want to.
I will always love my child, but sometimes I don’t really like him. Sometimes I just want to leave – get outside, get some air, go for a walk, go to the moon… anywhere. But I can’t.
I guess it makes me stronger, but do you know what else makes me stronger? Relying on my friends and community around me. This whole mommy war crap where moms tear each other down for, basically anything, is so destructive. Breastfeeding, weight gain, whether your kid plays with the right toys, reads enough, watches too much TV… I mean, why? In times of desperation, I look to my friends and it’s often just to listen. To complain about my problems which they understand. Because even if your kid is an angel there’s always days when he’s sick or something didn’t go right for you or work stress is making home life difficult.
This post was touched off by an incident this morning where I saw another mom who was obviously struggling. Sometimes you don’t want to be intrusive and don’t really know how much someone wants you to step in, but I think at least acknowledgement that we are all in this together is so reassuring.
OK – that’s a complete lie. I pretty much haven’t worn jeans since I entered my second trimester back in…. oh the spring? I’ve already professed to you my love for Skinny Sweats and now it seems that other players are entering the market. I love love love this.
I’m always on the hunt for good apple recipes and this one is a winner.
First off, it uses quite a few apples. I mean, how many times have you thought, right I’m going to make this recipe to use up apples and then you end up using say, an apple and a half.
Secondly, it’s really good.
And thirdly, it’s pretty simple. OK it’s not dead easy – caramel sauce is always a little tricky/annoying, but I did make this with my two year old. I think that speaks for itself.
If you find yourself annoyed at the steps what I often do is prep a step then leave it… especially when dealing with a two year old. Together we prepped the spring form pan. He was able to spread the butter and help trace the parchment paper. Then we cut the apples. To be honest, he ended up eating more apples than anything plus even though I gave him a butter knife I was a little nervous at the way he was shoving it through the apples. Then we left it a while.
We came back later and measured the dry ingredients. He then tipped half the dry ingredients onto the counter. argh. So we left it.
We came back a little later and mixed the butter and sugar together. He loves that bit (turning on the stand mixer) and I think it’s the most successful part of the entire operation. Least successful is me trying to get him to stop eating the batter which contains raw eggs…
A few points:
The batter looks really dry. I kept checking my ingredient list, but realized all the juices from the apples and plums would probably help it out and it did.
I wouldn’t skip the pecans. I liked the added crunch and texture.
I had to cook this a good 20 minutes longer than suggested. I do believe my oven is pretty accurate, but… I’ve never actually tested it. Use your instinct. If it looks raw I’d rather have drier sponge than raw sponge. Plus the caramel sauce will always moisten it.
I would make the caramel sauce… I don’t think it would be nearly as good without it (is anything?)
Eat it warm! This doesn’t mean you have to eat it all right away… microwaves are our friend.
This recipe is taken from The Great British Book of Baking that accompanied the first BBC series of The Great British Bake Off. I omitted the glacé ginger from the sponge and rum from the caramel sauce. It’s just not my taste.
Regarding the cookbook, I do recommend it if you are looking for less sugary, more tea time desserts. My only negative, and it’s personal taste, is that a lot of the recipes contain raisins as British baking tends to do. I have gotten quite a few winners from it though including this Sticky Toffee Pudding.