I recently read Amy Poehler’s book Yes Please, which was amazing for so many reasons but I think the thing that stuck with me the most was her confidence.
It wasn’t braggy confidence, and it wasn’t look at me I’m a movie star confidence, it was the confidence of a 43 year-old-women who had the experience to say I worked hard for what I have accomplished and I made my own path in life. She makes choices in her life and is OK with them, because they are right for her.
Her chapter on stay-at-home mothers and working mothers is spot on with women-on-women crime examples like the terrible comments women make to each other about things like breastfeeding and time with children. People, be nice to one another.
Her chapter on careers was such a yes moment for me. She writes about how most people become “famous” only after years of shovelling shit. No one wants to hear about the fifteen years of waiting tables and small shows. I thought to myself, thank goodness. It seems everyone these days is insta-famous and I just don’t think that’s true.
But what especially stood out for me was one of her first chapters on body image. She talks about things she doesn’t like about herself. But then she talks about things she likes about herself. I know this may sound totally ridiculous, but I have never actually thought to myself, what do I like about myself. I have only ever thought about what I don’t like.
So I thought.
It’s definitely something I need to work on. I need to love more of myself. I need to embrace more of myself and instead of hating the stuff I can’t or won’t change, I just need to deal with it.
These leggings are from Montreal-based Svelte and are really great and comfortable. They made me feel, well, svelte, and I pulled out a clingy top that I hadn’t worn for years. I don’t want to wear stuff that makes me feel self-conscious because that just is a terrible feeling. I want my clothing to make me feel fabulous and ready to take on the world. They have a little shape wear top that’s perfect if I need/want a little bit of a confidence boost.
And by the way, I wrote this all BEFORE I saw the photos for this post. I was kind of shocked. It just goes to show that sometimes what we imagine we look like and what we actually look like are two different things.
Do you have bits about yourself that you love?
Would you ever consider wearing shapewear to deal with the bits you aren’t so confident about so you can show off what you love?
Svelte has all sorts of shape wear products including tank tops, skirts and leggings that make you feel fab.
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(Photo Credit Gabriella Di Stefano)